HOW TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE FOR TODAY’S MAN BY T.MILLS February 22 2013 How to become an Alpha Male for today’s man is particularly for men looking to gain an advantage also the image of power in their dating/social life. This ebook allows for the reader to be able to have an arsenal of powerful tools to implement that will increase his chances on finding and keeping a status of power in the dating arena. ©2013 All rights reserved. COPYRIGHT © 2013 BY T.MILLS All rights reserved. No part of this document may be reproduced or distributed without written consent from the author. ISBN-13: 978-1482700688 ISBN-10: 1482700689 I FELT I SHOULD SHARE THIS TEXT WITH YOU JUST TO ALLOW YOU TO SEE FIRST OFF THE EFFECTS OF APPLYING THE ALPHA MALE TECHNIQUE. THIS IS AN ACTUAL TEXT IN ITS ENTIRETY NO EDITS, Nicki sends this text to me, Good morning! I'm laying here in bed thinking about how intelligent, sexy, exciting and beautiful you are!! I think that you are an amazing man. I feel very blessed and privileged to have not only met you but to have been selected to spend intimate time with you physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally as well as spiritually! How is it that we not only shared that much of each other in less than 6 hours but to add to it, WE WERE COMPATIBLE! Dana asked me, "What did you like about him?" I responded, "Everything! There is nothing that I dislike about him!" I'm laying here in my bed alone. Sometimes when I awake, I wonder why is it that I am so selective of who I share myself in any aspect with? I'm very choosy and my high standards have resulted in me living in solitude. Which is why I'm dumbfounded as to the outcome of our meeting. Well, I will close this lengthy text with, "Thank you!" Thank you for trusting me with your intimate thoughts, beliefs, actions and feelings! Sometimes people enter our lives and when they leave, as time passes, the memory of that person becomes fuzxy or it disappears. However I believe that even if I never see you nor hear from you again that T***** Mills will forever be a lasting, vivid memory; due to the strong impression you have not only left on my mind but also on/in my spirit and heart! :-) if I didn't know any better I'd swear you deposited something in me. Possibly inadvertently or on purpose because I seriously feel this strong connection with you that I think should be impossible! Although I liked you when I initially laid eyes on you, it grew as we talked, but after we had sex it became this....well I'm gonna close this message. Whatever it is I'm feeling I welcome it and it feels GREAT! :-* ttyl THIS IS THE EFFECT, WHEN PERFECTLY APPLYING THIS EBOOK PLEASE READ EACH CHAPTER AND CAREFULLY INPLEMENT IT INTO YOUR LIFE OR STYLE. THIS IS NOT DONE TO MANIPULATE PEOPLE OR WOMEN BUT SIMPLY TO ADD SUCCESS, LOVE AND ROMANCE BACK INTO THE GAME OF COURTING AND/OR SOCIALIZING, MOST OF ALL TO TRIUMPH IN ALL YOUR ENDEAVORS. ENJOY, TABLE OF CONTENTS 1. STYLE AND SWAG. *You will learn to develop this technique to gain admiration. 2. CONFIDENCE- HOW TO BUILD IT UP. *You will learn to increase it and perfect it until it’s not a factor. 3. THE RIGHT BAIT FOR THE RIGHT MATE. *You will learn to make your moves count, no wasted energy. 4. SELF KNOWLEDGE WILL INCREASE YOUR ODDS. *You will learn to define yourself in order to beat all opposition. 5. PROVOCATIVE AND QUICK-WITTED WORDPLAY. *You will learn to develop a language that women yearn for. 6. THE ALPHA MALES PLAYING FIELD. (MEET GENUINE MATES WHERE % IS BETTER.) *You will need to gain friends immediately, this will show you. 7. GAME- (WHAT TO SAY AND HOW TO SAY IT.) *You will learn to carry a conversation and keep it entertaining. 8. FROM GREETING TO MEETING IN 60 SECONDS. *You will learn your scoring strategy. 9. PROVEN SECRET STRATEGIES. *You will be given tips that I learned along the way to increase fame. 10. 2 RULES EVERY ALPHA MALE SHOULD LIVE BY. *You will learn two rules all alpha males should follow. 11. PREPARATION *You will learn how to prepare for a 1 one 1 conversation. 12. THE INTRODUCTION *You will learn to make the other person look forward to the next date. 13. CONSISTENCY *You will learn to keep from loopholes and develop incorruptible game. 14. CREATING HOPE AND FANTASY *You will learn how to create and sell dreams/fantasies. 15. BODY LANGUAGE *You will learn to make your words correspond with your actions. 16. HYPNOTISM *You will learn the basis of mind control to gain an extra edge. 17. CONCLUSION (KNOW WHEN TO SAY WHEN) *You will learn to close the deal at the right time. 18. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION *You will learn to use it to attract exactly what you’re looking for in abundance. 19. ******BONUS****** INTERNET DATING *You will learn the dos and don’ts in internet dating for the alpha male. 1. Style and swag The key to owning it plus controlling it. It is the life blood that keeps a woman coming back for more. This amongst other vital elements is necessary to build fame. By that I mean your style and swag are the things that make her gossip about you when you are not in her presence in the same way that celebrities are adored and praised. This is very important and if applied right it’ll work overtime for you long after the courting is done. 2. Confidence-How to build it up. Confidence is a personality trait that is very necessary in the game of socializing. It is a necessity in the game of life on any level. It is detected in the scent of a person from wildlife, more especially canine. If they sense, or smell fear they will react according to that sense. People are the same way. If they sense you are not confident in yourself, if you can ‘not convince them enough to believe in what you are saying, If you show any sign of doubt through your lack of self- confidence, then they will judge and react to you the same way you are feeling. Remember if you are confident in you they will be confident in you, and the rest will fall in the palm of your hands. 3. The right bait for the right mate. To catch a fish you use a rod a line some bait and you go to a body of water. To catch a mouse you use a trap with the proper scent to their liking and wait, to catch a bear you use a bear claw trap, get where I’m going. Make sure you are using the right trap to catch this specific woman. Every type of female is different and every trap you create must be also. Use this correctly and you will find yourself overwhelmed with the response. 4. Self-knowledge will increase your odds. Very often we find ourselves out of our element. We allow everything to go overlooked, still the fact remains that we have drowned before we can sink and everyone else is sailing away laughing. This can be corrected, and self-knowledge can be used to your advantage. Know yourself, so instead make them play on your terms. This will give you home Field advantage which greatly increases a win. 5. Provocative and quick-witted wordplay. Conversation is a tug of war. No one wants to lose and be pulled down. This game is played very aggressively but an alpha male plays this game of conversational tug of war with finesse using words of seduction. This is how it should be played, once perfected it will secure the win not by extreme effort but by forfeit. 6. The Alpha Male’s Playing field.( Where to score high and how.) Every game is different and every field it’s played on is not the same but the strategy and pure determination to win is shared by every alpha male. The playing field is packed full of competition but don’t worry the smartest will survive. When you reach the playing field to work your magic with hopes to become the M.V.P. of the night, you must strategically pick your encounters. Learn how to choose, and what to look out for before the game clock stops. 7. GAME Game is merely all talk, its smoke and mirrors. The winners win because they came with their best game. Think of it as a car deal and you are the buyer. Every dealer has the same car and the same motive. Now who gets the sale? Whoever seems to offer you more for less even if they pitch in a few extras as long as the customer leaves with the feeling as if they’ve gotten over. Game is applied this way as well but it has to be snuck in carefully or it’s easily detected and will be used against you. Learn this technique and follow it to the T. You will need it greatly to close your deal. 8. From Greeting to Meeting in 60 seconds. At this stage there are a few decisions to be made quickly before you go any further. There are certain things that should be said and certain things that shouldn’t be said. There are certain things that should be done and certain things to avoid. You have to make planets and stars align or at least make it seem so. If you have made the right moves then what you ask you should receive. 9. PROVEN SECRET STRATEGIES I have always said that you can have anything in this world if you know what to say and when to say it. This is true as well as very hard, almost impossible unless you are a mind reader. Well on the other hand knowing what to do can get you there as well! 10. 2 Rules every Alpha Male should live by. These rules are practiced to obtain an impeccable reputation. This is the main focal point to keep in mind while representing you. 11. Preparation This lesson is about creating an arsenal of divergent phrases or lines to change any conversation smoothly and quickly like blending a song the same as disc jockeys would do records so as to keep an audience attention and never fall into that awkward moment of untimely silence. 12. The introduction This is the first phone call, speech or summary to set the pace for what you hope to be an exciting conversation. Remember this is also the most critical moment. This delicate breaking point determines your place and status in your new relationship/friendship. 13. Consistency Keep in mind you as the initial speaker or pursuer shouldn’t expect any reciprocation from your audience at the beginning stage. This matter still requires a great deal of sincerity and persistence. So don’t expect anything in return as of this moment, give it all out. 14. Creating hope and fantasy At this time it is imperative to install a fantasy. This is what keeps the listener hanging on to your every word in hopes of achieving an ultimate result. This creates a dependency which is what you will need to transform from new face to a person of relevance. The listener needs to follow a dream you are the dream maker. 15. Body Language 85% of communication is nonverbal. The trained eye is experienced in detecting your body language and will 90% of the time take physical words over your verbal words. You must learn the secret of coordinating your body language with your actual words, in doing so will make you unstoppable. 16. Hypnotism The true raconteur must learn the basics of hypnotism. An alpha male is a step ahead of all the rest and must know and understand how to communicate with the mind of other’s to gain and maintain power. Basic hypnotism is a much needed tool. 17. Conclusion Knowing when to conclude your conversation and be satisfied is tricky. There is a perfect time for every perfect word. There also must be an end to all things as so the conversation. Make progress, leave an impression, and move on. Males who do not exercise this precept usually overdo it. Imagine a runner crossing the finish line and still continue to run full speed once the race is complete. Alpha males always close correctly and on time. 18. The Law of attraction- (And how to use it to attract strikingly beautiful women.) This tool of power is governed universally by the concept that like attracts like. The thoughts of your mind are signals sent out which causes a vibration and eventually attracts you to what you are thinking. Thoughts are in some regard close to actions primarily because it is the first movement made before force is applied. In this same principle there is certainty that the mind can process thoughts which will eventually produce a similar reality. This is perfect for the alpha male as the new thoughts in your mind will assist you in your success. LESSON 1.Style and swag. The key to owning it plus controlling it. It is the life blood that keeps a woman coming back for more. This amongst other vital elements is necessary to build fame. By that I mean your style and swag are the things that make her gossip about you when you are not in her presence in the same way that celebrities are adored and praised. This is very important and if applied right it’ll work overtime for you long after the courting is done. The process of instituting style and swag is most successful when applied with an open and honest mindset. You must reinvent yourself to the times and intertwine your style and swag with that exact flow. Stay loyal to your character so that you remain unique but upgrade it, tweek it if you will. Take your strong point and highlight this attribute so it not only draws the attention it deserves, it absorbs it. Think of the task of obtaining and maintaining style and swag as a job you actually earn revenue for. This will put your mind in a more serious position and this is how you should approach this particular concept for the simple fact that it adds a great deal of charge to your seductive power. Celebrities are ones who have to take this section seriously they obviously do get paid for making sure they highlight their strongest attribute. A great deal of their tax write offs primarily go to fashion, jewelry and personal assistants to help in this area who specialize in knowing what’s attractive for this particular day and time. So by all means don’t be afraid to display in a fashionable way your best attributes if you have it, if you do not have it then get it. If your strongest attribute is sexy and seductive and it can keep your audience attention locked on you at least for a few seconds then you intensify it by a hundred. The first move is always the most influential. You have to cultivate this concept as perfect as you can to get the first few stares. When you notice you have a ladies attention for more than the average glance but for maybe a few seconds longer then take a mental note because that’s more than likely your first target. Think of it as an invitation for a brief conversational date. Don’t be too long to approach her because procrastination results in a loss of the flow of that spontaneous attractive energy she is experiencing. The objective here is impulse, for instance impulsive shoppers; they see something that they just have to have before knowing anything about it. The look has captured their attention so much so they purchase it. Marketers spend billions of dollars on this particular type of buyer knowing that they will buy into the look of the product before investigating anything else. This marketing system is designed this way for this very same reason. Once she becomes intrigued by your style and swag then you must introduce yourself show her you are also quality and not just quantity. Style and swag is a key in a sense because before you can break down any barriers or imaginary brick walls that most women create to filter the nonsense it does it for you instantly with minimal effort. That pre-set brick wall is your first locked door that is now unlocked and ready for you to come in and work your magic which we will cover more in depth in the following chapters. Your main objective is to gain admiration by your audience. Keep in mind that in order to stay relevant to today’s audience you must conform to today’s standards. This practice you will notice in musicians as well as other entertainers. If they decide that they want to continue the same trend decade after decade, as that style fades away so does their career. Any successful entertainer seeking longevity in their career always looks to apply the law of evolution in order to stay relevant. STYLE; it is defined in Encarta Dictionary as,” an impressive flair in the way something is done, especially a quality that suggest self- confident willingness to exhibit skill or good taste.” Take notice to the words, flair, confidence, and good taste. These are very important things to remember. If you are one of those types of people who have trouble with recognizing quality or may not have good taste in style watch and learn from any qualified source readily available. It’s okay to copy someone else more especially a celebrity whom you may admire. They get paid to keep up with fashion so whomever you can relate to imitate their fashion sense. Make sure that they are very well liked and followed by many. You will gain the same respect and following for your taste that you really borrowed from your favorite idol. Most men neglect the key elements that add to style in fear of feeling to feminine. This attitude you must avoid. A man should care very much about his appearance. He should concern himself about his skin, nails, body shape, eyes, lips, feet etc. He should hold them in the same regard as his house or car. SWAG; This is defined in urban dictionary as, “The way one carries their self.” This is as much as important as style if not more. You have to have swag even before style. You may not have the most money or the best clothing or the nicest car but your swag is flawless and because of that alone you are attractive. Your style demands attention from an audience but your swag captivates them. It is not good to have one without the other or you will find yourself having female friends for the wrong reasons such as gold-diggers. They have become attracted to your style alone and are mainly looking to meet the source and hopefully cash out. If your swag is leveled with your style then they will lose interest in using you for monetary gain and realize it is more important to have a relationship or friendship with you in the long run. What is swag and how do I have it? Pay very close attention and imagine yourself acting out these roles. You have to be cool and calm but not too much then you’ll be considered as fake and boring. You have to be crazy and adventurous but not too crazy because then they’ll avoid you if they think that you’re out of control. You have to smile or grin but not too much, it’s a silly look and you want to exemplify smooth. You have to stroll not power walk it must seem as if you are walking to your very own theme music. Your steps should be in the right rhythm for your body type. Your facial expression should always match your emotional infused walk. When you talk never allow yourself to sound too hyper or anxious. Sound confident as if you can predict the future. It gives off a sense of power but don’t overdo it because over confidence is taken as a person who’s trying too hard to seem like he’s got it under control and that’s offensive. Always pay attention to you, your surroundings and the person or people you are interacting with. If you practice this on and off the clock this won’t seem as overwhelming as it seems now. It’ll become second nature. This mixture of style and swag gains your invitation to the next step. So learn this recipe and mix it well so your taste is superb and when it is served it receives a well-deserved five stars. LESSON 2. Confidence-How to build it up. Confidence is a personality trait that is very necessary in the game of socializing. It is a necessity in the game of life in every situation. Through our basic instincts we have the ability to sense or smell fear. If we sense you are not confident in yourself, we become worried, not only are our wellbeing but for yours as well. If you can ‘not convince someone enough to believe in what you are saying and you inadvertently show the slightest sign of doubt then they will judge you and react to you in the same way that you are feeling. Remember if you are confident they will be confident in you, and the rest will fall in your hands. We must address the number one problem with men and women today and that is lack of self-confidence. First off if you plan to accomplish your goals and you don’t have confidence in yourself to succeed in doing so then you must be extremely lucky if you’ve ever won any woman over or landed any job or successfully ran any business. These type of things are only obtained through first having confidence in yourself to do so. ‘How do you know if you are being confident’? Let me explain what this is like and look within you and see if you have ever felt this way or reacted in this way for anything. Confidence is a feeling you summon for anything you want badly enough in life. You acknowledge the fact you cannot live without it. You take whatever necessary steps leading the way to having it. You demolish all obstacles in your path trying to stop you from getting it, simply because without it you won’t make it another day. You accept nothing else but success. Failure, embarrassment, fear, doesn’t haunt your mind. You have no time to even entertain the idea in fact you never even heard of it as if it doesn’t exist. You plan your attack, you make your move, and you win. That’s all you know. That’s confidence. We would all still have that if we have never allowed that strong dose of truth to take its toll on our memory. Those past rejections, that loss of love, strength, and power we once had. That feeling of embarrassment and disappointment after being stood up. That lonely feeling after being dumped or knowing someone else has took your place with your woman. The feeling of worthlessness because of that job we lost to someone who doesn’t deserved it but clearly can outdo you. These are the types of experiences that leave stains in our minds ultimately stopping us from succeeding by resurrecting those same feelings which now act as warning signs. The light has been turned on in this dark but promising room called anything’s possible. The bad part is we now have visual ability to see doubt, fear and anxiety. This must be deprogrammed from our mind. How is that done? How do we plunge through this tall and terrible roadblock? The answer is quite simple but easier said than done. You have to straightforwardly face your exact fear head on! There is nothing to fear but fear itself. When it comes to dating more especially, this particular fear is a figment of your imagination. You have defeat yourself. You have become your worst opponent. Not the extremely gorgeous woman across the room. Or the crowd that you believe is watching you waiting for you to fail so they can obnoxiously laugh at you. You have created an imaginary wall of fear stopping you from making your goal a reality. This is most men first mistake when it comes to meeting or socializing with beautiful women. Fear has bullied your mind and stopped you from attending life. You have to see fear as a bully and how do you get rid of bullies? You do that by accepting the challenge. Since we are dealing with the developing of an alpha male in regards to dating then let’s address that specifically. You need to write down your fears in order. If your fear is approaching someone you may have an interest in at work or in school write it down. Next if it’s fear of rejection while trying to meet women in public write it down, if it’s fear of dancing or whatever write it down. The purpose is to see your problem first on paper then destroy it in reality by chronologically challenging these issues to a duel. Set a date to approach that love interest from work. (Work related or office romance can be a sticky situation but if done right you will win with minimal to no damage/backlash. We get more in depth about how in later chapters.) Set a date to go out in public and approach each and every woman who catches your attention or vice versa. Write down your results, this will teach you your percentage. Some men may experience higher success like 7out of 10 some maybe 10 out of 10 but mostly the average is 5 out of 5 you win some you lose some, but if you can learn the techniques of this ebook and apply them correctly you will increase your average significantly. Jot down what you say to each individual female. Write their response to your best catch lines and even your worst. This practical technique brings experience and experience is the best teacher. There are some other techniques to practice that’ll help make you comfortable with initializing conversation with a woman. Some used favorably are rewards of monetary value and trust me it works. This particular practice or exercise can be done alone but usually performed in groups. This is a beginner’s exercise but it can be used to build confidence in an extreme way. This game is competitive and profitable. It builds up nerve and gives you more experience and experience leads to comfortableness and that ultimately comes from being confidant. This is what you initially desire. It’s best when it’s done with more people and a playing field where women are plentiful. This exercise is strictly for advancing your confidence by utilizing the pressure of competition with the given incentive of fortune. The rules of this practice are simple. You may want to gather a few friends it’ll make for more entertainment. You challenge each friend to make their move on someone who would be considered unapproachable for whatever reason but mainly because they are strikingly beautiful. You raise the bar on each woman you select so that it will be hard for the next opponent to approach them. This also makes it hard on you for the same standards apply when it’s your turn. The penalty for not completing each task is up to whoever is playing but it is usually a fine. In the end the winner receives the most and the loser leaves with nothing. The whole objective is to take their minds off of the pressure of so called breaking the ice and the fear of rejection and make them perform for the sake of competition and profit which is much easier and enticing. This exercise has proven to be a top confidence booster, and no one leaves the game without obtaining the most important thing, experience, which will make socializing with women second nature. LESSON 3. The right bait for the right mate. To catch a fish you use a rod a line some bait and you go to a body of water. To catch a mouse you use a trap with the proper scent to their liking and wait, to catch a bear you use a bear claw trap, get where I’m going. Make sure you are using the right trap to catch this specific woman. Every type of female is different and every trap you create must be also. Use this correctly and you will find yourself overwhelmed with the response. Let’s examine this simple concept first. This is a known fact that we have all different types of women out there with different personalities. The one thing I must add is the rule to not judge a book by its cover applies here in a big way. Most women are stereotyped as well as men and usually do to us misdiagnosing them based off appearance alone we lose out on a great friendship, business partner, or relationship. On the contrary we also have a greater percentage of being able to determine certain crucial things about a woman simply based off of her style, looks etc. This is because of variety. After a while you tend to categorize certain women by looks and personality simply because it starts to become like an algorithm if you will. Once you have been around and had the opportunity and pleasure to become familiar with every type, it becomes easier to demonstrate your particular approach as your every move is now based off of analysis and statistics. I personally recommend getting to know every type of woman and become familiar with as many different personalities of as many women as you possibly can. This will increase your knowledge which will ultimately give you the advantage over any of your competition when it comes to gaining favor in regards to seducing women. A very often missed tactic but crucial mistake is reading too deep into a person. If done correctly it should be the first thing to do. First, pay very close attention to every detail. It speaks before she does. It’s your key to another locked door. It gives away all the answers to an uncooperative unwilling mind. Here’s an example, you meet a very attractive business lady. She’s always in a hurry. Stopping her in her tracks would make you look more like a nuisance than an Alpha male. Not only is this an obstacle she also exemplifies radiant beauty making her intimidating, her facial expression seems aggravated or arrogant it’s hard to tell. It seems she has no time for conversation. As an Alpha male these are the women you love to encounter. They present a challenge they give you your stripes so to speak. If you win one or more over it will also boost your confidence. Challenging women should be looked at as an invitation. This particular woman demands the best of the best so you must come prepared. Your mind should be thinking strategically. Your first thoughts must not be how I should gain her attention. Your first thought should be how I can gather the most information. It is very important to use your time wisely doing this, gather your information quickly and remember everything counts. You should instantly take notice to her walk. Questions like how does she walk? Is it fast or is it slow? The way she looks how she carries herself, does her facial expressions change. This type of Q&A proves to be very helpful when determining whether you want to pursue and how. Also how does she handle it when other men approach her if at all possible to see? Which arm carries her belongings which colors does she favor? Her style of dress, does she wear flats or heels, dress suits or short skirts, noticeable thongs or the not. It may seem like a bit much but it gives you the cutting edge when you make your first move. When a woman refers to a man as interesting or intriguing it is because of this type of preparation that makes the difference. Most men wouldn’t even think of going through all this, but if you aspire or at all consider yourself to be an alpha male then this is not an issue but a necessity. Whether they know it or not they come across as lame because most women seriously have heard it all before and without something different to say or elaborate on you are usually coming up with the normal introduction which once you have heard “How are you doing Today?” and “Excuse me miss” over a hundred times! And that’s just for today, and then it becomes oblivious to a woman. If you want to stand out from the pack then you must strike a nerve when you approach then your response will not only be an introduction but a sustainable conversation. As I said before, once you master this skill it becomes second nature and it will happen automatically without thinking so don’t worry about over exerting yourself becoming an Alpha male takes practice but eventually like all else it’ll soon come naturally. Now the reason you need to know every piece of information is because it tailors your offense to her defense (if any) in the same way a coach analyzes the opposing team’s play. Should he notice a change he then calls an audible that should make the opposing team’s play counterproductive. So be very meticulous about detail. One of the details to take close notice to is color. Take the color she mostly wears or has on now. Say for instance its red and black. Is it mostly red? If it is then you can quickly but carefully determine her personality. There are studies that calculate a person’s attitude and personality based off of color selection. This helps a great deal as it’ll tell you if maybe this is a good or bad day to approach as well as if you approach should be upbeat or more subtle. Proof of this can further be examined by google searching the color diagnostic test. This was created in 1947 by a Swiss psychotherapist named Max Luscher who suggested that a person’s favorite color could determine their personality traits. Her walk tells a lot of important information for example; her pace whether fast or slow tells me her mood. If she walks extremely fast then she is more than likely the type who doesn’t have time to hear a silly and familiar come on line. Sometimes they work but it’s always out of pity if they do. Now if she walks slowly, it tells me she’s more nonchalant and likes to take her time to enjoy every moment life has to offer at least for this moment, I myself would have to approach indirectly always,( never reveal any hidden agenda, alpha males are always mysterious). I would interest her by appealing to her self-interest or speak something based off of quick observation that she may consider interesting. Now facial expressions on the other hand helps in a great way but can be very misleading. Most women look as if they do not want to be bothered but what they are really staying even if they are involved with a significant other is I want to be bothered by someone worth my time, worth my space someone intriguing someone interesting. Even she is out with girlfriends on a lunch date whether she’s involved or not someone of that status is always worth a conversation simply due to the flattery that comes with it. That is why as an alpha male it is always good to stay mysterious, interesting and intriguing. So if you encounter this type of expression do not be discouraged. I will give you an example; There’s a steady paced but slow walking woman approaching, you determine she’s laid back and gear yourself to show her how you could benefit her life more by meeting an interesting person such as yourself but before you can go with your introduction you get closer and notice her facial expression reads sadness and her head is lowered toward the ground or either to the left more or to the right but not straight ahead. You then determine a more sentimental approach is necessary as this will be more productive. So you may start your spiel by introducing yourself and going on to agree with her mood and sympathizing with these types of days. Of course she will indirectly deny her mood but will be intrigued that you cared enough to look deeper within her instead of worrying solely about your hidden agenda. This is how you become interesting. If you gathered enough information to safely assume correctly then you will have gained yourself a conversation and maybe a meaningful friendship. Now also keep in mind the attire for the evening/day whenever. This should be everything from head to toe and in between and beneath if at all visible. For instance check out the shoes whether heels or flats, dress, pants, noticeable thongs or panties. This will tell you the aggressiveness of this particular women’s personality also focus on her body language (which we will go more in depth in a later chapter) See if there is a match to what she is wearing. As this will tell me how I should act in her presence. The dominant heels the sexy fitted dress or tight jeans demands attention and it should be given, but to the opposite reason for which they are worn. This type of woman yearns for attention but for something else not necessarily her style or body but for her intellect and she is donning her attributes with glitz and glamour as her way of alluring potential mates who may want to open her mind and get to know the real her. So steer clear of her sexual assets and focus on her mind. The plain Jane is the opposite she shows nothing off, she is more of an introvert and would love a compliment on her physical beauty rather than her mental capability. She would not be offended if you showed first off what she doesn’t flaunt any attention but flattered. How should an Alpha male approach a situation where an attractive woman seems to have a defensive angry look but you need for some particular reason or want to get to know her anyway? First an alpha male shouldn’t worry about offensive looks because most of the time the facial expression shows the opposite of a person’s real personality. Keep that in mind. For instance let’s say you have a woman who looks angry and it seems she wants no parts of a conversation with no one, usually these are the type who are desperate for a meaningful one on one conversation with anyone. The expression you see is the look of disappointment from repeatedly having the same type of conversation with everyone she encounters. This quickly becomes boring. If this is a social setting then she is there primarily to socialize but with someone who can offer something different, interesting, intriguing and mysterious. This is the alpha male she is waiting for you. The alpha male who approaches this woman and ignores her uninviting disposition but still attempts to make his presence known is the winner. He gets to learn something nobody would’ve ever guessed. That is, that this woman is very insecure and her life is very much secluded to a small circle. She’s is not rudely offensive but a reserved person who hates having her guard up. She’s internally screaming for someone to say something perfect to her. She’s reluctant to request on her own but she’s in desperate need of a companion to entertain her. Her defensive actions scares away prospective mates but an alpha male knows this exact attitude makes her easily attainable if approached correctly. Remember whatever the topic you choose for conversation the goal is to simply get a second chance at more conversation so be exciting, interesting, intriguing and mysterious (An alpha male). An excited mind yearns for more giving you more time to work at gaining her respect. A more timely approach if possible would be calculated and played out more constructively. In addition to everything previously stated you must also investigate her and her lifestyle a little deeper. Remember this is all a part of the work an alpha male have to put in, tedious it may be but this is why we are respected and most sought after. This is what makes us interesting, intriguing and mysterious. So if she works nearby, find out somehow. Once you do, use the element of surprise to introduce yourself. The objective at this point is to gain her attention and have it placed on you. This can be done through emails, IMs, or a friendship card along with something nice to place on her desk such as flowers. Her answer may be no at this time but the move was only made to place your image in her mind. Be it brief at the moment it will still register different thoughts you can capitalize on later. As time continues you become more assertive use directional comments that would suggest that you meet somewhere always stay interesting, exciting and intriguing and she will consider you to be mysterious which is very much entertaining. She will become enticed by this and sooner or later agree to meet. This type of behavior from you transforms the meeting into something adventurous and risky. The sensible side of her mind is thinking to be cautious while the impractical side of her mind is surprised, and in some ways aroused and impressed. Those mixed feelings create a turbulence of excitement and she eventually gives in. So the bait has been set she is now focused on meeting you formally and you’ve won another’s interest and respect. This method of bait and mate should be applied according to the environment you are in. Of course if this was the nightclub or bar scene the bait of choice would be alcohol but an alpha male strives to go above and beyond that because offering drinks is done too often by every man in the club. So something else has to gain the attention of a woman as this is considered normal, and the alpha male doesn’t do anything normal he moves mysteriously. Now your conversation has to come into play (which we will discuss more in depth in lesson 7.) For the most part you should bait not only with a drink but a small explanation of who you are may have to be revealed. Meaning you must read this woman quickly but allow her to know what you’re doing and recommend a drink that would fit her to the exact match. Based off of what you have gathered, let her know this drink defines her and why. By being this much more inquisitive you have gained her attention. Something every other male in the club will envy. Do not embarrass yourself make sure you’ve done your research in fine wines and mixed spirits. In this case you have to be sort of a connoisseur of alcoholic drinks or at least sound like one for the moment. Even if she denies your drink, she’s still thinking of you and trying to figure you out. So you must continue immediately with another simple but sweet surprise. Again here comes this decision she has to make. She will decide for the excitement as long as the wordplay is interesting and enticing. (This will be covered more in depth in a later chapter.) Now that you’ve gained her attention you’ll find she’s open to any type of conversation while in a setting such as a bar or nightclub. These vital points of thinking, analyzing and setting the bait to trap will increase your potential mates in a tremendous way especially if they are don’t right and on time. Practice makes perfect. LESSON 4. Self- knowledge will increase your odds. Very often we find ourselves out of our element. We allow everything to go overlooked, still the fact remains that we have drowned before we can sink and everyone else is sailing away laughing. This can be corrected, and self-knowledge can be used to your advantage. Know yourself, so instead make them play on your terms. This will give you home Field advantage which greatly increases a win. The purpose of this chapter is to increase your awareness of your own self. It seems that alpha males spend more time looking into others minds but that’s only due to the amount of time spent looking into one’s own issues. Most men as well as women do not seek for true self-knowledge and therefore become victims of their own mind games. They lose in life or in relationships mostly because of themselves playing against their own self unknowingly. This occurs when you have a man who either refuses to accept certain bad traits of himself and fix it such as extreme arrogance or when a man’s ego is more important than common sense or right versus wrong. This type of man is not acting as an alpha male. This lesson’s primary goal is to get you to know you. All of what an alpha male does is mental. An alpha male must not ever fall into the category of people who seriously have no idea of who they are and what they stand for and as the saying goes, they fall for anything. An alpha male strives for perfection by any means. His means is by having and using the knowledge the masses lack. First I will challenge you to a task. This task involves quite an extensive amount of research. You have to look at it from a professional standpoint. If you were the professor teaching a subject entitled, “YOU”, and had to give lesson after lesson day after day explaining how you operate, function, think your emotions, likes and dislikes etcetera you would definitely come prepared to do teach without imperfections. First, you must get into your mind by taking some time alone to get to know yourself. Not by closing yourself off from people but by isolating yourself meaning you need to first date you, be in an environment only with you so to speak. Honestly ask yourself do you consider yourself to be someone that you would interact with romantically. Notice the things that aggravate you, what sends you over the edge? Recognize them and correct that. What makes you happy? Does it correspond with an alpha male’s image or lifestyle? Ask yourself does this habit or personality trait make me a loser or a winner? See your flaws for what they are without any excuse to why they are. Watch yourself in that mental motion picture. Do you play a good role? Or do you play a great award winning role? A very important question to ask is am do I demand respect and adoration by my actions? Do I reach too hard for friendship am I a beggar. Do I handle myself like a man at all times or am I bowing down to please others who don’t reciprocate? You must at this point perfect every flaw concerning yourself. Am I giving enough to expect a response? Step out of the game of dating and socializing for a moment to learn who you are. Consider this to be a training exercise. After you have documented some facts about yourself try to improve on the areas that are most detrimental to you becoming an alpha male. If you do this correctly you will start to gain a better insight of who you are and what it is you need and want from someone else. You’d be very surprised at how different your goals will be after evaluating yourself first. An alpha male often times have to change his personality or outward appearance sometimes in certain situations such as not to come off too intimidating maybe around a certain person of power for instance, or whatever the case may be knowing yourself first is going to be the key of doing so correctly and returning back to who you are who you were. In most cases when some people get to a higher status in life if you were to ask their closes friends or relatives about who they were before the success or fame the majority of them will tell you about someone totally different. Those men never truly knew who they were or who they wanted to be. They are simply riding the wave and that we know goes to and fro in a backward in forward motion constantly. That’s not an alpha male’s personality. This all falls under the concept of knowledge as you must know who to transform to and who to come back to. This knowledge of you is never ending and must continue to accumulate in your mind in order for it to be influential to your becoming and maturing as an alpha male. That simply means learn everything as much as is physically possible. Be abreast to everything interesting. You must have the answer for you and her immediately or you’ll lose attention and there goes your control right along with it. Knowing gives you control not only over yourself but others. Others will trust and obey you for they believe you are more knowledgeable. As a result they will wait patiently for your next command, now that’s power. As you mature as an alpha male you’ll learn things that should open your mind to new ideas. These are the things you share with your circle. You give them unadulterated and free spirited conversation. This is new to them so they become captivated on your never ending and entertaining words of wisdom. The winning secret that an alpha male possesses is knowledge. Knowing the outcome before it happens. That skill comes by carefully analyzing and calculating a person’s natural reflex or response. It’s like mentally creating an alpha male’s strategic secret almanac which you can go back and use to up the score. An alpha male thinks in this way, by utilizing his awareness of himself and others, carefully accumulating bits and pieces of small information this will enable him to lay out the exact vision and dreams of what his lovers and friends think of but only as a fantasy. He must distribute those fantasies and make them realities or at least close to it. This will result in genuine dependence on his attention. His following will compete for it. In the alpha male’s lover’s or friends eyes it is only he who knows them. He has seen a side of her or them that was secret and forbidden and he has done this without her or them ever specifically revealing anything to him. She or they wonder in amazement how, and why. In conclusion, to them this alpha male can do no wrong he have satisfied their hidden fantasies and help them live them in reality, how did he know what’s in their mind how did he know I’d like or want this. This amazes them and they will start to believe that he is perfect. This again builds power and thus the saying knowledge is power once again holds true. LESSON 5. Provocative and quick-witted wordplay. Conversation is a tug of war. No one wants to lose and be pulled down. This game is played very aggressively but an alpha male plays this game of conversational tug of war with finesse using words of seduction. This is how it should be played, once perfected it will secure the win not by extreme effort but by forfeit. Keep in mind what you have learned in the previous lesson. This chapter ties in hand in hand. We will concentrate more on wordplay and provocative language in this lesson but just as the last lesson, it is imperative to perfect the art of pre-planning and forethought, and incorporate that with provocative and quick-witted wordplay. This game of provocative and quick-witted wordplay is an indirect war with words, and the winner is the one whose choice of words and phrases resonates with his listener so much so it provokes their response according to his command. This shows he demands all attention. I’m sure at some time or another you have heard of someone having the gift of gab. If you have please don’t get it confused. This style is not a gift at all. Meaning this is not something these types of people were born with so if you don’t have it you can if you choose. No baby born was able to speak intelligently and fluently before he/she can be taught. Usually as they grow older they watch, mentally record and mimic whatever it is their parents are doing around them. If they witness a particular person having the gift of gab and using it well then they will repeat it in the exact same manner. This means this gift was taught and an alpha male should have it. An alpha male is never loss for words. Good sources to watch for training in this area are politicians they speak on any topic and always add something with significance in their response. They display confidence when they speak only because they are knowledgeable of everything that could come into play so there is a great deal of preparation work involved and it will be for you as well. An alpha male should keep in mind that an intuitive conversationalist has a mind that’s ever racing. He’s in tune one hundred percent with the person he is communicating with. This is needed to provide a quick- witted response and providing the right response requires diligent practice. The objective is to have every word that you choose to backfire with in your response be delivered with one key purpose and that is to entice the respondent to play by on your terms. This is the provocative language you are looking to master. What you say must give them their response by forcing it and if it’s played right they will only have one or two ways out both are yours this method will set you up for the winning move. Never think you can just wing it when it comes to this game. To become a master at this you must be diligent in reading, studying, analyzing, testing and practicing the craft with persistence and determination. This is how an alpha male should display his talents. Envision yourself as the master conductor behind the curtain; your job is to entertain. You must serenade a woman with words of beauty and splendor. Your image is magnificent and your choice of words is words of integrity, honesty and brilliance. You have to strive to impress every audience. Scope out their needs and wants using the same tactics we discussed in previous chapters, refer to them as needed. Appeal always to a person’s interest and you will have their undivided attention. Once you do then consistently strike another nerve until they are lost in this sea of entertainment now it reverses they will do as you say in order to please you, why? Well it’s simple because you hold the ticket to their dreams. Your job is to make a fantasy sound close to you but far from them and only obtainable through you. Doing this will gain their interest then you must control the conversation. That control is not achieved through talking constantly but by setting up topics in particular arrangements so as to provoke a situation. Remember to be a seducer, keep your words full of compassion and excitement. A quick-witted conversation is a pendulum of comments swinging back and forth, from one to the other almost like sex. This setting is to be considered your bedroom and your job is to make love to her intellect at this point. This must be pleasing to her and in order to do so it must be an exchange of INTERESTING phrases. It’s a game like a sport if you will. The winner has his opponent tongue tied or lost for words. An alpha male must not allow himself to be cornered in that position if he becomes lost for words everything else he says is worthless. This takes away from his credibility. If this happens to you which it is very likely to happen you must develop five to maybe ten diversions that you have memorized perfectly; that you can utilize that will give you enough time to think, thus enabling you to correctly respond to your counterpart. There is an answer to everything just not enough time to find it. You will have to create that time if you find yourself stuck in that position so be as creative and as cunning as possible when developing that spare set of diversions. This is your backup plan. An alpha male always have one but rarely have to use it. To have a good quick-witted response you must hang onto her last word and almost simultaneously deliver a perfect response. Your comments must be in a timely manner so as to not come off as rude and also eliminate any quiet spots. Seems difficult? It is, especially when you are nervous. The only reason why most men are nervous during this time is because of lack of preparation and practice. An alpha male thinks in this way. He looks at this interaction like a challenge and knows he is the best at it. He prepares and looks forward to difficult situations. This is only practice to him. Now your choice of words varies depending upon your style and whomever you’re conversing with so when you think about your delivery, the way you reroute topics, or simply your quick-witted response fashion it in a seductive and intellectual way. This will eventually put you in control of the conversation and when it does you must take that golden opportunity to provoke your counterpart to subconsciously comply with your demands. This is the winning touch. Provocative wordplay is a language. It has a flow of energy that women yearn for. They love to hear a man speak with a steady tone while indirectly dancing around certain topics, hinting an encounter especially one that is sexual in nature. It’s pleasure, its taboo. It’s forbidden to think about this man this way at this moment, but is he insinuating he wants me? This is where you want her mind. Keep in mind not to go to far as to reveal your hand. If you reveal too much then she can play your hand and she will. You want her in a confused state about your feelings which throws off her balance. By revealing too much too fast she have now received clarification, defining your angle then ultimately gaining back control. The entertainment stops. The show is over. This changes the flow. To keep her mesmerized, it is a must to incorporate some humor. Provocative wordplay blended with a little humor makes a woman feel very comfortable. It keeps the conversation exciting and stimulating. If you have an interest in her sexually and you are trying to explore that field then you have to keep her mind fixated on a sexual desire by delivering passionate gestures. Keep the conversation simple but not too explicit or vulgar. This will give her the impression that you are sexy but innocent and safe to be with. This also poses a challenge for her to reciprocate. As the conversation climaxes you will find that you have provoked her response almost forcibly by your words. Lesson 6. The Alpha Male’s Playing field.( Where to score high and how.) Every game is different and every field it’s played on is not the same but the strategy and pure determination to win is shared by every alpha male. The playing field is packed full of competition but don’t worry the smartest will survive. When you reach the playing field to work your magic with hopes to become the M.V.P. of the night, you must strategically pick your encounters. Learn how to choose, and what to look out for before the game clock stops. Now the main objective in this game is to win and win big. The first place chosen to meet women is the nightclub or some sort of bar scene; on the contrary it should be your last place to meet women. Let’s look at it from a mathematical standpoint. Number one, we have a lot of women to choose from that’s a plus. We also have a lot of competition as well that’s a minus. Now, it’s all about conversation, who’s most attractive and who’s looking to buy the most drinks. That should be all but wait there’s more to add to this equation. This is a true fact. Women are approached daily by hundreds of men, sometimes back to back, and often times almost at the same time. The only difference between them and an alpha male is the introduction. After a while the same call or come on lines from the average men becomes so recognizable that it’s ignored by women purposely. You must come across some other way. An alpha male meets a woman unexpectedly, it’s always seemingly unplanned like it was meant to happen, and that’s the start of leaving a good impression. Now your biggest problem with the nightclub lies with the fact that by attending just to meet potential mates you have now reduced your status. Since you are there to meet women it gives the power away. You have gone from an alpha male to that of an average man. In the nightclub the best of the best approach is expected. This destroys your element of surprise. The only thing that can save you and put you back in the position of power is if you can set up your position as being there for something other than to meet people such as a friend’s birthday party and also you can depend on the fact that most of your competition will not be as intelligent and prepared as you. Your competition will usually get intoxicated build up enough courage then blabber on about anything. Women build up a tolerance for this at these types of settings and therefore become immune to it all. She shuts down her receptive mindset and no longer allows that to gain her attention. You will find in the nightclub or bar scene she is now searching for the best dancer or the most generous. Although the nightclub may be the least place to find potential mates it is not at all excluded. Let’s explore some other avenues. The shopping mall is always a great place to meet women. The downside is the huge crowd that accompanies them. They usually never come alone and that leaves no room for a seductive approach. The best way to handle this is eye contact. Making great eye contact and flirting facial gestures will give you a greater chance. If she is interested she will create an opportunity for you to take your introduction further. An alpha male in any situation can never try too hard. For this reason it is best to make your presence known early if it is felt then move in if not then move on. An alpha male should get used to visiting art galleries, networking functions, festivals etc. Most women view the men they meet at these types of events as persons of similar interest and they become more susceptible to getting to know you. In turn their guard becomes lowered substantially. Another place with high potential is work. Office romance is one of the most heavily explored affairs with adult men and women single or attached. This is not the best choice due to the aftermath of failed relationship attempts but if you feel this is still going to be your field of choice then the best tactic here is bold truth in the beginning it’ll save you some headache in the end. An alpha male in this environment can play one of two ways he can be mysterious and seduce from a distance or he can be bold with his approach either one is stimulating in this environment. Word of advice, spend some time on how you will end these types of rendezvous before they actually end. Make sure no one is bitter or hurt. There are other heavily populated places to meet potential love interest such as the gym the supermarket things of that nature. The objective is to keep in mind that an alpha male wants to meet a woman unexpectedly without her thinking he set out to do so. It makes the encounter seem destined which makes him automatically intriguing. Seek out and find places where meeting someone there may be interpreted that way. LESSON 7. Game-(what to say) Every man should have it. Game is merely all talk, its smoke and mirrors. The winners win because they came with their best game. Think of it as a car deal and you are the buyer. Every dealer has the same car and the same motive. Now who gets the sale? Whoever seems to offer you more for less even if they pitch in a few extras as long as the customer leaves with the feeling as if they’ve gotten over. Game is applied this way as well but it has to be snuck in carefully or it’s easily detected and will be used against you. Learn this technique and follow it to the T. You will need it greatly to close your deal. The essence of game is as follows. The focal point in this case is your lover. Remember game is driven on hope. You have to imply a goal that’s beneficial to her. A tactic used by most men simply because it works is the idea of being with this particular man because he has money or wealth; money is still and always has been the root of all persuasion. It is the greatest negotiator. It will convince the masses to comply with your demands without speaking more than a word. If you don’t have money to speak for you then you have to speak for yourself. It’s not hard but it’s also not very easy especially if you have a conscience. You see this game when applied can be deceiving. As shameful as it is there is a silver lining. That is most women prefer to be entertained with game than told the cold hard truth. That’s the only plus side to this particular area. This game is purely entertainment. It’s like being the host of a show. You are there specifically to warm the crowd. Get her in the mood. Get her comfortable with you and your presence your lifestyle. The longer you keep her entertained the more time you have to work. She will notice and start to become attached to you. She will eventually see the interesting, intriguing and excitement about your life and this will allow her to make a decision. She will choose you. That doesn’t mean the game stops. It must keep going in order to thrive and then it must shift or at least escalate. Meaning it has to take on a different form getting better with every story. Her benefit in the end has to be so huge that it’s hard to walk away at this point. She’s holding on to a dream. I encourage you to deliver what you promise but that’s totally up to you most men don’t. Remember that you are an alpha male and your actions always stand out from most men. So try to make the dreams you speak about a reality if at all possible. Basically speaking you are the host of the show when using game and the main event is your true self so try to make it as real as you can if you want to continue with this particular person. To give you a practical idea of what I mean think of an entertainer especially comics. They prepare to warm the crowd. They take time before each show to go over their material they practice in the mirror and make sure their delivery corresponds with their body movements and facial expressions. To be successful at this you must do the same. This is a powerful secret tool. It’s most important because it is applied at the very beginning. It can be used anywhere at any time. Your initial game is your invitation to you. Make it interesting, seductive, exciting and humorous. Please don’t get it confused with bragging or boasting. It is done simply to make the interest in you last, and last long enough so whatever it is you’d like to blurt out and brag about can be discovered gradually. If it’s done that way you will gain more respect. Your game however when applied has to speak fantasy and dreams, but don’t go too far or else your game will sound impossible and direct her to question your motives. It has to be within your means to be believable. A person hanging on to hope will not stray from the provider of that expectant dream come true. To do so is to possibly lose the best thing that’s ever happened to them. An alpha male must understand this is power and to respect it carefully because as long as he controls their dreams and the reality thereof he has control of them. Remember that time is of the essence an eventually the game will be over and the scoreboard will reveal the truth. LESSON 8. From greeting to meeting in 60 seconds. At this stage there are a few decisions to be made quickly before you go any further. There are certain things that should be said and certain things that shouldn’t be said. There are certain things that should be done and certain things to avoid. You have to make planets and stars align or at least make it seem so. If you have made the right moves then what you ask you should receive. Allow me to clear up this misconception about being an alpha male. Let’s not confuse being an alpha male with someone who is mainly promiscuous. The lifestyle is not about being with a lot of women sexually. An alpha male is genuine about his motives. The fact is he is not too concerned with having multiple women, as opposed to having any woman. The challenge is to acquire the most desired and exclusive women. If an alpha male has a role to play and an image of power to maintain his circle must be in the same light. Now that we have clarified that let’s discuss the main objective. Your goal is to greet with an introduction and confirm a day and time if not immediately to meet. The most important element when in this deal closing situation is to appeal to her best interest. Ideally, how can her goals become accomplished faster through you? This is the way you should approach this situation. You have to make it so everything is subject to her but only through you. Experience plays a big part here. Possibility and odds does as well. Competition can also be a factor but not as much. The deal is won by the most convincing. This is not easy. If possible always have someone promote for you. For this purpose having a true female friend will do tremendous for your outcome when trying to meet new women. Most women will do this unknowingly. They will create a powerful aura about you. They will paint a picture of you so extravagant that whomever listening nearby including their friends will have no choice than to be envious and in turn they start to develop a plot to get you to know you in the same way your promoter has. They too want this pleasurable experience. They feel this way mainly out of jealousy and curiosity. However, it still works in your benefit. The deal is closed almost effortlessly. Your job is to try to create the same scenario in any setting. So how do you accomplish this if you cannot create this scenario? How do you go from greet to meet in no time flat? You have to be straight forward in your request. Make sure it’s clearly understood the benefits to be had after complying with your demands. Speak persuasively, leaving the mind with the intention of having limited time to perform this spontaneous act. You want to provoke an impulse decision. This is a qualified salesmen’s tactic. You have to sell the idea of winning. The idea is bought, and your goals fulfilled. This is a big leap and it takes some guts but remember women want what men want in most cases. Do not make the mistake of prejudging them or seeing them in some way higher than you. She may be on the same page of thought as you and simply would like you to direct. You will know based off of what you observe as you go on. If done correctly then all competition will seem to come off as desperate, and you’re soon to be lover will see you as a vessel to pleasure. You can now exit with confidence. Knowing that you’ve left a good impression and your new found friend is eager for more. Don’t stray away there’s still work to do but you can however breathe easy with a victory cigar. LESSON 9.PROVEN SECRET STRATEGIES. I have always said that you can have anything in this world if you know what to say and when to say it. This is true as well as very hard, almost impossible unless you are a mind reader. Well on the other hand knowing what to do can get you there as well! Once you have developed this new alpha male persona you will have learned some secrets along the way. The first secret you will have learned is how to play the genie if you will. You will have also gained some basic knowledge of attraction. Soon enough you will notice certain things happening seemingly like magic. Most of which is due to this new momentum of energy you have going but technically you have really embarked upon the art of illusion. Let me explain. Like-minded people attract to each other like magnets. This theory is proven scientifically. This benefits the alpha male’s strategy. Use this theory to your advantage. Make sure you position yourself around the type of people and the right environment where your mind may blend and the chemistry will work. An alpha male should be looking to create an aura of power and the standard he sets for himself should be as high as his circle of associates. Once you have accomplished the task of building your nucleus of professional or sexy or powerful friends you will notice that the same type of crowd will attract to you unintentionally. You have created a presence that has defined the flow of magnetism. You are now desirable by the same type of women or people you’ve surrounded yourself with. This power however is being produced by the swarm of high class admirers you have accompanying you. An alpha male must keep the circle of success encircling him. At the same time he will also entertain his new following. This doesn’t take much work as the task of persuasion is already done by your followers. The only work you must perform is at the start. For instance let’s say you wanted to meet and network with a new line of business associates or high class and beautiful women. First even if this is for one night you must have two to five extremely gorgeous women with you as friends. Women attract business associates new business deals as well as new love interest or admirers. I have been in situations where because of the beautiful and sexy women that accompanied me I was given free drinks, free admission, phone numbers secretly slipped to me, business cards and it goes on. Everyone that I’d encounter thought that I had to be someone of power in order to have those types of women with me. They saw me as a serious business man or movie producer or entertainer. Either way it didn’t matter to me. The same quality of women looked from afar and I’d notice them making sure they too were just as flawless as the beauty that was at in my section. They were eagerly waiting for their chance to get close to me. I gave them their chance and you should too. The whole purpose of the night was set up for this particular purpose. Think about this you may have had to invest a little in this image but it pays off in a big way. The new women I would meet would be intimidated of me from the beginning. They would try to impress me thinking that I would replace my friends with them. They saw me as someone of great importance. The image I created attracted what I really was after. The initial set up may have been false but the result was genuine. Every new business associate or love interest I have met afterward respected me and that gave me my way in the door so that I can start to work as an alpha male in their life as well. You do the same thing. Create your initial circle no matter how you do it. It doesn’t matter if you hire models. However you work it as long as you come out on top in the end you won’t even remember the beginning. LESSON 10. 2 RULES EVERY ALPHA MALE SHOULD LIVE BY. These rules are practiced to obtain an impeccable reputation. This is the main focal point to keep in mind while representing you. 1. Never allow anyone or anything to take control of your emotions. The moment you allow someone or something to gain control of your emotions you lose all power. You have now become its puppet. Your reactions are no longer your own. You must show emotion but make sure it’s done strategically. 2. Never give in to jealousy. The envy an alpha male may feel of another is normal but your reaction to that feeling should never be noticed. Use that burning desire of envy to fuel additional motivation. LESSON 11. PREPARATION This lesson is about creating an arsenal of divergent phrases or lines to change any conversation smoothly and quickly like blending a song the same as Disc Jockeys would do records so as to keep an audience attention and never fall into that awkward moment of untimely silence. So often we find ourselves lost for words during a conversation. This usually happens when we simultaneously try to comprehend what the person we are talking to is saying while thinking about what we will say to set up our next move. Eventually the mind times out and decides to go blank. This can easily be avoided. Remember you have to make a good impression so instead of getting caught with your tongue tied fumbling last minute thoughts and phrases at this crucial moment you should be practicing and preparing yourself for this and every conversation. Treat every conversation as if it was your last. Your goal is to not only make an impressive pitch but to leave the person or audience with a thought they can hang onto until the next encounter. If you can do that you have gained another fan, friend or client. The main objective besides keeping your audience entertained is maintaining control of your thoughts while communicating. This is done by preparation. You must prepare for the best and the worst. Visualize yourself engaged in conversation with someone who you want to admire you. In order to keep your conversation interesting and entertaining you have to deliver well timed and thought out responses. Remember their emotions are starving for satisfaction and need to be fed with your words. If you lose track of your words you will lose this listener. So you must practice speaking to this type of individual in your spare time. Be sure you speak clear, precise and fluently. An alpha male must keep a constant flow of words that not only entertain but steadily enlighten. Now visualize yourself speaking to the exact opposite. Your arch nemesis, you’re adversary, your enemy, your rival, your antagonist, any title you can think of that would define this person as being problematical. This particular person is opposed to everything you say. You cannot run from this as this type of person may just be a debater and loves a good boat rocking discussion. You must prepare for this person as well first because chances are if you speak intelligently and with seduction they will initially be opposed to giving in quickly as this is somewhat intimidating. Do not concern yourself with it too much because secretly this is what they crave for. Women love the challenge and after they realize you are not weak but interesting, intriguing, exciting, and seductive they give in with pleasure. So see yourself being debated and questioned on every view you may have about any aspect of life or topic of which you may choose to discuss. Practice being cornered by this person’s response and prepare an arsenal of returned replies that will annihilate this person’s theories. Do not be too harsh or it will be considered a turn off but indirectly offer some insight that may either add to it or reiterate the conversation correctly. If you have covered all bases this person will soon back down and come to respect you and in light of the defeat you will notice him/her now starting to become quiet and waiting for your response as now him/her is starting to figure if they have lost this one on one conversational battle then you have or know something they don’t. They are now trying to learn. What have you gained? You have gained the most important thing in a conversation with a person of this caliber and that is his/her attention. So preparation is another key to winning anyone over is business in love or in life in general. Prepare for the best and the worst. LESSON 12.THE INTRODUCTION This is the first phone call, speech or summary to set the pace for what you hope to be an exciting conversation. Remember this is also the most critical moment. This delicate breaking point determines your place and status in your new relationship/friendship. The introduction or opening of a conversation is a precarious situation. The stability of the discussion depends heavily on your initial choice of words. How many times do we find ourselves second guessing or stressing ourselves about what we said wrong? We go over and over again in our minds wondering and battering ourselves thinking we may say the wrong things. We contemplate what might we should have said. Pondering thoughts like what is the right thing to say to keep an audience or a person wanting to hear more. The true fact is you haven’t said anything wrong, you may have said it to the wrong person. Everything is interpreted differently by different people in different ways. Everyone’s mind operates in its own unique way. You have literally 60 seconds to read a person’s mind and body to determine what should be said. This technique is not easy. This technique can be perfected if practiced. Think of any notable or excellent public speaker and watch them closely. You will notice how quickly they take in their audience, at that moment commence to speaking, and then completely control the conversation. Most public speakers choose to warm up their listeners first. They make them feel important enough to be acknowledged at the beginning then they suck up their time delivering their spiel. An alpha male must do the same thing in his introduction. Appeal to her interest first, quickly direct the introduction from just you speaking to her speaking. Make it an interactive situation in the beginning this will buy you some time mid-way to complete your pitch. The introduction is your only hope to success in a conversation. It is the key to the locked door. Beyond that door could be an immeasurable amount of treasure just waiting to be found. You will never find out, no matter how great of a person you are if you are not skilled in your opening statement. Introduce yourself correctly and the rest will fall in your lap. LESSON 13. Consistency Keep in mind you as the initial speaker or pursuer shouldn’t expect any reciprocation from your audience at the beginning stage. This matter still requires a great deal of sincerity and persistence. So don’t expect anything in return as of this moment, give it all out. The greatest adversity for mankind in making our goals come to fruition is consistency or lack thereof. Consistent action or unwavering relentless drive for what you choose to accomplish must be applied in order for that mathematical equation to total up to success. Most often we find ourselves stuck in a trance going from this to that, then right to left, forward and backward just to end up right where we started or even further behind. Keep in mind that in order to finish the race let alone win you have to see it through until the end. The end is not at every obstacle on the contrary that obstacle is your only proof of the beginning. An alpha male must remember that consistency is the primary factor in achieving what you have set out to accomplish in anything you put your mind to. In regards to dating stay steadfast to the issues that are relative to your listener’s needs. Consistently work to accommodate them or make her believe that you are. Whatever your goal is if your words stay consistent and your actions match them then you will be found flawless. This is rare and something rare she would work hard to have. This is also the status of an alpha male. In order for things to eventually go your way always reiterate what your listener must do in order for her to be satisfied. You must guide her decision by persuading or convincing them of your ability to perform and guarantee to satisfy her innermost desires. At this point she will have gained clarity of who you are and why you are here in her life and will start to gravitate toward your interest if you don't sway back and forth. If you would like to get your point across and make it felt then stay consistent in conversation and you will eventually see your listeners begin to understand and assist you in accomplishing that what you set out to do. Consistency has always been needed to win in all love, life or business. LESSON 14. Creating hope and fantasy At this time it is imperative to install a fantasy. This is what keeps the listener hanging on to your every word in hopes of achieving an ultimate result. This creates a dependency which is what you will need to transform from new face to a person of relevance. The listener needs to follow a dream you are the dream maker. First off an alpha male must look the part he wishes to be perceived as. Fit yourself from top to bottom to match the role you are looking to portray. Before you install a reachable fantasy or dream make sure the listener is clear that they or she can only have full access to this blissful reality through you. Be it a cruise to a beautiful island, a successful career and all that comes with it, a more convenient lifestyle or just simply a great adventurous time with an interesting man. Whatever you choose it has to be alluring to her not just to you. Of course there’s a question of what is appealing to this person or persons. Quickly you must define this person and determine what they're interest are and appeal to that alone. Create their dream and make it undeniable. Make sure you are able to prove you can deliver on what you promise. An alpha male should be able to deliver but shouldn’t do so easily. Also do not hold out too long but slowly give a taste of their fantasy to them little at a time, if your audience does not see anything beneficial in it for them then you will most likely lose more attention than you will gain. Not only does the person have to have something beneficial, they also have to be able to obtain more than you in the end or think they have in order for you to gain their favor. No worries for the alpha male because the end is just an illusion. More so a diversion from the big picture so whatever your agenda is, keep it hidden. Just remember when applying something hopeful for your listener to believe in if it’s not in their best interest you will lose simply put. An alpha male goes about installing dreams while speaking to his listener this way. You analyze her or them. You comb through your resources while simultaneously fabricating a beautiful and blissful story. Anything less than that and you will find yourself cut short of completing your pitch, speech, or conversation. You will find that each and every lesson will be applied briefly in every initial introduction to someone new. It will become much more intense and detailed as the friendship build but in the same order, it will be the same pattern of lessons applied. So try to memorize them. This must be done to obtain a following and hold on to the image of power an alpha male possesses. Lesson 15. Body Language 85% of communication is nonverbal. The trained eye is experienced in detecting your body language and will 90% of the time take physical words over your verbal words. You must learn the secret of coordinating your body language with your actual words, in doing so will make you unstoppable. Most people do not realize their words don't agree with their physical movements. Body language signifies the underlying truth that has been hidden by our words. Our verbal communication is the second thing the trained eye pays attention to. The trained eye philosophy is believe only what you see not what you hear. So for the most part the language of the body is telling the story for you and it is the only message that gets through to the trained individual. An alpha male is also that trained individual as well as the master of the art. It is very difficult to lie under oath and not perspire, fidget, twitch, stutter, have repetitive thoughts and repeating words or have your blood pressure elevate. Unless you have been trained in this, then getting caught off guard can throw your movements and verbal expressions completely out of sync. Have you ever noticed someone getting extra angry when being interrogated or questioned about something and they try their best to go overboard with emotion and or anger so that they can avoid answering, and when they finally answer to satisfy the interrogator they have to shout or yell to confirm their innocence. Or maybe their response is just the opposite they are too nonchalant and have no emotion behind what they are saying. Chances are they are lying. Their body language does not agree with a completely innocent person. You will notice this person rehearse in their mind a thousand times and say the same thing over and over but in between those thousand rehearsals the mind adds something else on to the last story and they try to institute that addition not even aware they are now saying something slightly different from the first story. This repetitive thought happens while trying to say something your mind doesn't agree with then the body admits the truth by those easy give away signs. Thinking too much is very noticeable. How many times have you questioned your significant other and they cannot look you in the eye. They turn the other way or pretend to be busy while they are answering. They know that their eyes will tell the truth and cause their facial expressions to give them away. Body language is a separate dialect that you must train yourself in. The only people that have mastered this are your Hollywood stars, actors and actresses. They train to cry on cue, look sentimental while saying I love you, square off and stare in each other’s eye while thinking of an awful memory all while other cast mates are distracting them, and they must not batter or blink but at the same time and on cue shed tears and make it believable. This is taught. They are learning to perfect their body language. They have to be believable in order to receive rank and pay; this is serious because this determines their source of revenue. An alpha male must perfect this art and take this same training as serious as actors because they are playing a part that’s deeper than a movie it is real life there is no cut or do over. Everything that an alpha male holds sacred to his image and reputation depends on him convincing an audience of his sincerity. It must be very difficult to pick you a part. When you speak to your audience or whoever is granting you their precious time you must not lose even a second of their attention to doubt. This will lead to loss of trust. Make sure you speak and your facial expressions agree. When you move your mind follows. Do not follow your thoughts with words that your body does not follow up with. It all has to be on one accord in order for your conversation to be trustworthy. This shows confidence, that confidence is detected and your listener will soon become your follower. Practice your facial expressions, your movements and speak while doing so. Try different methods, different emotions, different situations videotape yourself and critique your performance see if you can convince your own mind that your words and body language are in sync. It will pay off. Lesson 16. Hypnotism The true raconteur must learn the basics of hypnotism. An alpha male is a step ahead of all the rest and must know and understand how to communicate with the mind of other’s to gain and maintain power. Basic hypnotism is a much needed tool. Covert hypnotism is the most powerful and effective lesson of conversation you can learn. Covert hypnotism is the art of hypnotizing someone during conversation and it works in this form. The master of this art is highly trained in communicating with your mind putting the listener in a subconscious state. He is engaged in a separate conversation with the listener’s unconscious mind where he creates a certain desire which in turn makes the listener very interested and willing to comply with his demands. In this conversation he is more of a director. The listener, after it is all said and done may find him or herself wondering why did I do that or what was I thinking. This is going on all around us. There are many leaders in the world today who have instituted covert hypnotism and most don’t even know it. They have a following of people who will give large sums of money to them, deprive themselves of life’s necessities trust their very own children in their care without one question even kill for them and believe it to be the right thing to do. They never question whether it’s right or wrong they just do it to please the person whom they have come to admire and respect. That person knows how to tap into their unconscious mind and keep them there until their particular needs are met. If you choose to perfect and use this skill take into consideration the effect it can have on the person. This is your responsibility and your consequence so use it wisely. An alpha male in regards to dating may use covert hypnotism in this way. First your job is to ask questions get into the innermost thoughts of your listeners. (Kevin Hogan’s Covert Hypnosis explains it in this way and I quote “The unconscious mind is where covert hypnosis is experienced. The unconscious mind is the storehouse of memory and emotion.” End Quote.) After you receive your answers direct your next words according to their response. Get your listener to vision the image or life that may be conducive to your agenda. Test the waters a bit by seeing how much this request means to them by soliciting a certain idea or move they would have to favor in order to make this particular vision a reality. You will notice as an end result it will be easier to accomplish whatever you set out to accomplish by appealing to their unconscious mind rather than their conscious mind where everything that is directed there goes through an extensive amount of questioning. Once that happens usually all fallacies are noticed and you ultimately lose or take the lower hand. As long as you can keep the unconscious mind entertained or occupied by something alluring then you will maintain control. If they are acting to anyone’s benefit other than their own then they are in a hypnotic state whether temporarily or permanent whether it is for a good cause or bad. They say love is blind and it makes you do the craziest things. The spirit or feeling or concept of love is an excellent hypnotist. An alpha male should know how to distribute carefully and correctly the concept of love. It can have a woman in a drunken stupor which will cause them or anyone to do things they may regret. So again I say use covert hypnotism at your own risk and understand this is a serious practice that could have a horrible consequence but used correctly can result in overwhelming success. I suggest further research and study in covert hypnotism before actually trying it. Lesson 17. Conclusion Knowing when to conclude your conversation and be satisfied is tricky. There is a perfect time for every perfect word. There also must be an end to all things as so the conversation. Make progress, leave an impression, and move on. Males who do not exercise this precept usually overdo it. Imagine a runner crossing the finish line and still continue to run full speed once the race is complete. Alpha males always close correctly and on time. Just as it’s important to have a great introduction it is just as important to finish or conclude what you are doing in the same manner. The exit and the way you execute it weighs more on leaving a good impression than your introduction. Everything has a start and finish in life. The more important goal is to finish well. You can have a rough and awkward start but if your finish is smooth it will erase your past mistakes. It doesn’t work the other way around. If you start excellent and capture your listener’s attention but you completely turn this person off when you finish everything you have said or done prior to will be null and void. Your finish is not based on time you have to determine when that is. The closing of your conversation should have a listener begging for more. The listener should look forward to the next ensuing meeting with you. You have to bring them to this point without going overboard. When an alpha male arrives to this point he must exit strong or elevate the conversational plateau. Meaning if you have accomplished a successful introduction and you decide you do not want it to end at this point then you must advance or upgrade the level of conversation. If you must continue that’s fine but take the listener deeper in order to keep them mesmerized. The first crucial mistake an alpha male can make is to become accustomed to hearing and liking his own voice and become enthused only for himself and will continue to prolong the same point not even noticing the listeners expression of boredom. They too have become the listener. They have egotistically fallen too far in love with their own thoughts and words. This can and must be avoided. You must have in your mind what it is you are set out to do and do just that. At that point or peak of your conversation is where you’ll find your moment to take what you are seeking so you should consider concluding at this time with a bang. Leave the listener with the intention of another encounter. Once you have achieved that status then you must close the conversation. If you continue wordplay with the same respondent they will soon figure out your strategy and develop one of their own to contest it. Remember time doesn’t matter in conversation for a few words can have the same if not more of an effect than many. LESSON 18. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION This tool of power is governed universally by the concept that like attracts like. The thoughts of your mind are signals sent out which causes a vibration and eventually attracts you to what you are thinking. Thoughts are in some regard close to actions primarily because it is the first movement made before force is applied. In this same principle there is certainty that the mind can process thoughts which will eventually produce a similar reality. This is perfect for the alpha male as the new thoughts in your mind will assist you in your success. We cannot go any further about becoming an alpha male without visiting this powerful tool. The law of attraction is by all means the reason behind our success whether we know it or not. Our vision of power and success starts in the mind. Therefore soon after the thought is made our walk and talk or demeanor begins to mimic this new vision. Soon the people around us see us in this light. Eventually life begins to unfold in this desired fashion. This ability to attract that which you desire mentally is usually overlooked. It’s something the majority of people doesn’t recognize or give credit to. After this you will. You will have to try these exercises and log your results. Prove to yourself that the law of attraction has brought you to or put you in situations that will ultimately help you accomplish your desires. In regards to an alpha male as far as dating is concerned this will be very useful. If your desire is to attract women of power or women of beauty then vision yourself being with these particular types of women. Sooner or later you will be put in situations to be able to either introduce yourself or at the very least the opportunity to do so. It will be up to you to take advantage of this opportunity. The law of attraction teaches that the universe brings into existence that what your mind can manifest. In the book/documentary entitled The Secret this law and exactly how it works is thoroughly explained and I recommend also watching or reading this. The first thing to do is clear your head of all doubt. Clear your mind of any thought contrary to your goals. Picture yourself surrounded by beautiful women. Imagine yourself around women of power beautiful talented women and vision them obsessing over you. Think of them wondering what is it about you that make you so magnetically attractive. Keep your mind focused on this as if it already exists. Practice this mind exercise when you go out, when you come in, when you’re alone and especially when you’re in an environment of intimidatingly beautiful women. You may not even notice but this will also boost your confidence and in turn attract women. Feel as if you are already someone that’s sought after. Look and act it out as if you have things your way already. This will trigger a sense of curiosity in women and will evidently lead them to believe that you must have it your way. Keep your mind focused steadily on the things you desire. Soon you will notice that these things will naturally not supernaturally but naturally began to appear. You will master this goal if you say you will. The definition of will according to Merriam Webster dictionary is used to express desire, hence will-power the use of energetic determination. You have to be determined in this technique and apply the energy of thought and use the power of will. It is something you will get use to and come to expect and that’s when you have mastered it. The most important part about this technique is writing down what you are using this law of attraction for. Write down and be specific about this goal, then write down everything that relates to this goal that happens from hence forth until you accomplish this goal. Go back and study your notes this will make it easier for you to understand how to communicate your desires mentally and execute this powerful strategic law when you need to use it again. Another very important part to remember in order to make forward progress is to act on anything that comes into existence that is anywhere remotely close to what your goals are. For example, if your goal is to meet a certain female who you can be friends with for travel who’s business minded. Don’t be surprised if you just so happen to be in the position to introduce yourself to an attractive lady who may be involved with a particular group affiliated with a travel agent. This is your opportunity drawn to you by the laws of attraction. You must take advantage of it or it moves on. LESSON 19. BONUS CHAPTER INTERNET DATING The alpha male succeeds even greater and faster in this up and coming Eworld so use it to your advantage. If you are not internet savvy then it will be in your best interest to do so. The internet has taken over pretty much everything that was done in a physical manner that we know of for example schools are online, banking, business deals, major conferences, networking, careers, and of course dating. Meeting new people by all means is the biggest trend with the internet. How does the alpha male portray his image through the internet? In this lesson we will go over some neglected but simple tactics to ruling the internet when it comes to dating. The alpha male is looked at as an adventurous man full of excitement. A spontaneous, interesting and intriguing man who holds some position of power, or at the very least have a disposition that exudes power. This image is the image that makes him adored and very much attractive. This is the image that you must transfer to the internet. Most people ignore the message behind the pictures they post, not realizing that this is the story you are telling of yourself. Take the time to develop a story. Create this interesting, intriguing life through pictures. Take the time to do a photo shoot if you are able to. If you cannot then take your camera phone or digital camera with a tripod or a friend and take as many shots as you can resembling those alpha male attributes. Make them look professional. You can easily do it yourself by using adobe lightroom software for easy to use Photoshop effects or countless others. Pay attention to detail, your clothing the background the place it all must correspond to the image you are looking to portray. Take this pictorial story and place it on every credible site you know of. Such as Facebook which has the largest database of people, the best known site for networking, and heavily used for dating. The best thing is it’s free, but don’t stop there. Join three to five dating sites try to stray from free dating sites. The reason is most of the free dating sites are fake and the profiles you see are far from real they are bought in bulk to increase traffic to the site. Some of the more sophisticated paid dating sites you will find less frustrating. Take the time to put in quality information about yourself. Continually add more professional pictures as time goes by. Start to post to your status daily this will increase awareness of you which will ultimately make you very popular. You will become known very quickly and when they enquire about you, which they will by looking at your pictures they will have feelings as if they know you and will develop an interest in seeing you in person or at least craving to know more. This will put you ahead of all competition. Eventually that momentum you have worked so hard to get up externally is now gained speed internally on the internet. Your inbox, text and voicemail will be overflowing with messages. This gives you choice which enables power. This is the position an alpha male should be in, in regards to dating. This is your start to becoming an alpha male and living a life of passion. Do these exercises regularly to adapt to the new you. Revert back to each lesson to refresh your memory as needed. This is the beginning phase for any man looking to learn to transform into an alpha male. I have written this EBook straight and to the point so you can implement this material into your everyday life directly. I have noticed many EBooks on this topic that are double the size but miniscule in useful information. Thank you for purchasing and reading How To Become An Alpha Male For Today’s Man, your feedback is appreciated. I also welcome any email pertaining to any questions you may have or situations you may encounter in regards to dating or socializing as an alpha male where my unbiased advice is needed. a.s.e.inc35@gmail.com Thanks again, T.Mills